Just a reminder, these posts are not in any certain order. I owe so much to so many. To place a number to any of them would be ridiculous! They all have helped me in so many ways.
**Names have been changed. She will know who she is.**
Background: Andy Anderson and I met in high school. For some reason we hit it off immediately This boggles me, she and I were and are complete opposites. That said, I love this chick. I would give her my life. I would take a bullet for her. I know she would for me, you know how I know this. She told me she would take the cancer for me. I remember this. I don't remember everything during that time, however, I do remember her compassion and understanding while when we talked. I digress. Back in the day... Our now husbands are very close, that is how we met. We would do so much as just the four of us, party, drink, drive fast, watch races, watch fights, laugh, you name it we did it. We were tight.
In our relationship our friendship had some hard times, we almost didn't make it. But our bond was one that took the beating and came out on the other side stronger than I could have imagined. We joke about that time, now. So how did she help me through this you ask?
When I told her I had cancer, she was shocked. She did the routine that most people did. Let me know what you need, I'll be there. I was like yeah, yeah, it's not gonna be that bad. We'll be all good. Famous last words, right? Well I wasn't good. I was terrible. Life sucked. She was there though. I laugh when I think of how she says she wasn't. If she only knew, maybe after tonight she will understand the amount she truly helped me! Here's an example. I didn't call anyone after my surgery. It took so much to talk. It was exhausting. It hurt like hell just to breathe, add talking and it was a down hill slope to more pain meds. Speaking of pain meds, I was advised not to talk to too many people while taking the drugs I was on. Apparently you think you are making sense and the reality is you don't, at all! So the less I talked, the better.
She would call me, almost weekly. She would always ask the questions... How are you? How do you feel? What do you need? How can I help? What's new? What's changing? How's chemo? How many left? All those are legitimate questions, she just wanted to know. So I answered them the best I could. There was one however that I never could answer, I riled her up by not knowing this one. What is your number at? (My Ca-19-9, Tumor marker) I never knew when she called. Not because I didn't want to know, but because it was usually the day I would have chemo and I wouldn't find out until the next day or a week later when I went in to have another lovely cocktail. She held her cool, until a couple of weeks ago and then told me she was mad I never knew. I love her for that. This girl is honest. Doesn't matter the stakes, she tells you how it is and oh my GAWDs, she does it respectfully. (to me anyway, lol)
During those calls, I started out only lasting 5 mins or so on the phone; if that. She knew when it was time to say goodbye. She made it a regular to call me. She never let me ask about her, she wanted it to be about me. She made me know she LOVES me. I also remember a not so pleasant conversation with her. I didn't call her to tell her I was having liver complications. I just didn't want to stress her out. I didn't know what the hell was going on. But my lovely husband told her lovely husband and then I got the call. I could hear the anger in her voice for not telling her myself. I truly was and am sorry for that. I just didn't want anything else to be wrong. I hated worrying her and everyone else. But again, she was there. Telling me she was there and if I needed anything, to call. I am so grateful for this woman in my life she truly is AMAZEBALLS!
So Andy Anderson, if I have not ever told you, or if I have... Ima say it again, I love you more than you know. I am grateful for all you have done for me. I cherish our friendship and look forward to being your right hand woman when you need someone to carry a baseball bat, cuz you know I would do that shit for you!
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